Many people today have a misconception about love and what it means to be in love. I have heard it said many times, “I love him/her but I’m not ‘in love’ with him/her.” This has got to be one of the most ridiculous statements that has ever come into being.
Exactly what does it mean to love vs being in love? I have no idea, to be completely honest. For me… I suppose it is loving a friend or family member but not necessarily wanting to live under roof or in the same bed with them for the rest of my life. Many people mistaken being “in love” with the initial attraction to another person, an infatuation. That first sight, heart pounding, stomach turning, palms sweating and mind racing feeling that one gets when attracted to another human being. This indeed is not love, this is something completely different. Even over the course of the next few dates, months and even years later one may have this feeling.
“Feeling of Love”
What happens when that feeling leaves? Well, that’s when many people say, “I have fallen out of love with him/her.” At this point they begin think that one or the other has lost touch, that maybe they shouldn’t have been together in the first place. They feel helpless and hopeless, maybe even begin some new friendships looking for this feeling again. What they fail to realize is that love is not what they thought it was.
Our society makes it too easy for us to give up on our relationships. The divorce rate is higher than ever before and constantly increasing as our culture becomes more selfish. Love is not a feeling or an emotion, love is not a fluttering heart, love is not found deep down in your innermost being, love is not something you find nor is it something you lose. Love is an action, love takes work and love beats the odds. Love is giving 100% of yourself 100% of the time even when the other party gives NOTHING.
True Love Acts
“For God so loved the world that He GAVE…”
In this instance we see that directly following the love of God, there was an ACTION attached to it.
“Greater love has no one than this: to lay down his life for a friend…”
Again and again in the Bible we see where Love is tied to acts that could lead up to the giving of one’s life for another. This is what love is…
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, and it is not proud. Love is not rude, it is not selfish, and it cannot be made angry easily. Love does not remember wrongs done against it. Love is never happy when others do wrong, but it is always happy with the truth. Love never gives up on people. It never stops trusting, never loses hope, and never quits. Love will never end.
-1 Corinthians 4-8
So then, do you know what love is? Please comment below and share your thoughts.